For Worse….. For Better

Yes, I have it backwards…but not for rescue.  We see the worse …. Then we get to see the better.

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This is an example.  The emaciated dog -- Jewel -- was found discarded like trash alongside the road.  It is clear she has been overbred and is extremely emaciated. Yes…thanks to everyone working together – Friends of Shawnee Animals….Oklahoma Alliance for Animals....and organizations like ours, PAAS, once Jewel is healthy she will leave the state for a better life.  Pictures like this tear at your heart.

Then you have the story of Sadie who went on a PAAS Ride-to-Rescue transport in February.  She was quickly adopted by an employee of Dumb Friends League and renamed Skeeter. Today she has a great life.  She goes to horse shows, is working on good leash manners. And, while she is certainly interested in cows in the neighboring field - - after all she is a heeler and that’s what they do - - herd cows, it is obvious she is loved  and she is happy. Look at Jewel, then look at Sadie/Skeeter when she arrived at Dumb Friends League….then look at Skeeter enjoying the snow.
For us in Oklahoma rescue it starts out For Worse….. and ends up For Better when they make the overnight trip to Dumb Friends League.  If a picture is worth a 1,000 words - - three pictures are priceless.  

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Yeah but - - - it stops progress every time

The two most powerful words that will stop collaboration, agreements, progress - - you name it are: Yeah but…..once someone listens to you, nods their head in agreement and then says “Yeah, but” - - it means everything you’ve just said has been negated in their minds.  You’re back at ground zero in the discussion. Whether you keep trying or walk away - - - it’s your choice. But, if you walk away, collaboration does not occur, changes do not happen and things remain status quo.


When it comes to rescue, it has prevented finding a home for thousands of dogs and cats.  We all have our own idea of what’s “right” for us….the key is to not expect that same “right” to be the only way to save animals.  Some rescues do home visits - - it works for them. Some rescues only have foster homes; municipal shelters have to say “yes” to every dog and cat that’s brought to their facility (they do not have a choice); private, non-profit shelters can set their own rules (you may not agree with them but they play a key role in the overall rescue picture). Many people use a unique “underground” system of private citizens who connect to get a homeless pet from point A to point B;  others send a significant number out-of-state to rescues they trust.

Each way is the right way for the rescuer.  It’s the working together part that gets sticky.  An example: we transfer Oklahoma dogs (some cats) to Dumb Friends League every week.  We trust this partnership and we know “when” they are adopted. We do not know who and, most of the time, we never find out.  Thanks to social media, some of the Colorado pet owners will reach out to us via Facebook and share their story. Not all do and we’re okay with that.  4,400+ and counting - - that’s how many have made the trip to a new home.

The next time you’re having a discussion with someone - - about anything - - and at the conclusion they say “Yea, but!!!” - - -remember your opinion no longer matters to them.  Sadly, most of the time trying to change their mind won’t work. If you’re getting ready to say it - - please stop - - think about it and then if you can say something like “Hm, I never thought about that way”……or “That’s an interesting concept” the conversation can continue and you may find a common ground.  Try it.